She had a headache. Her friend gave her a pill that said "For pain" , It was the wrong pill. Her friend found that out when she couldn't wake her two hours later. She was gone.
He was at a party when a friend handed him a pill and said "Try this, it will help you loosen up". "I don't do drugs" he replied. "It's nothing hard just a low dose klonopin. Trust me it will just help you relax, nothing weird" His friend insisted. He took this pill. It was the wrong pill. This klonopin was laced with fentanyl. He fell asleep and never woke up.
My son was twenty, just shy of his 21rst birthday. We hadn't heard from him all day. We figured he was finally sleeping. He'd been having problems due to pain in his back from a football injury to his pelvis. When I noticed that he hadn't touched his dinner from the night before I began to worry. I asked my husband to check on him. That's when our world was turned upside down. The fentanyl patch he had been prescribed had had a crack in it and that caused it to release an unsteady and this time deadly amount of medication. A medication over 80x's stronger than morphine. He had been playing a video game with a friend online, took a break and fell asleep. He never woke up. My beautiful caring and incredibly smart son, my first born had fallen asleep after the patch he was wearing released too much fentanyl into his system and he was gone. Forever.
It's been 12 years today that my son passed away and to the people who say time heals all things- I can tell you, you're wrong. Ask any parent who has lost a child. I've not met any other parent who ever stopped grieving the loss of their child. We learn to live with the pain sure. We really have no choice or rather no "good" choice. I also know of parents who did make "the other choice" . You know, that permanent one that nobody speaks of. These days you probably know of someone who has lost a child to fentanyl.
My son's patch was prescribed by a pain management doctor. He was uneducated or given the wrong informantion about this particular medication. I don't know which all I know is that everything he told us from day one was the complete opposite of the truth. He should have never even been prescribed fentanyl due to central sleep apnea But hindsight is 20/20. If only I had researched this drug like I always did/do but this time for whatever reason I didn't.
II'm not writing this one about that horrible night though, not directly. I am writing this to plead with everyone to push our president to CLOSE THE SOUTHERN BORDER! As I stated above, fentanyl is over 80x's stronger than morphine. Further it is processed by our bodies in a less typical way.. Which, avoiding the technical jabber, means that it doesn't work right away like most opiods do. It takes a few days. That in and of itself is dangerous, an extremely powerful drug that doesn't work like most others of it's kind do. People take it or apply the patch and when they don't get relief in a reasonable amount of time they think it's not enough for them and take more and the next thing you know a loved one is gone forever. It is my belief that this powerful medication should ONLY be given in a hospital under close supervision.
Further, since our current administration doesn't seem to care about the epic amount of other drugs laced with fentanyl being brought in over our southern border we need to do two things immediately- either remove them from office or pressure them until they close the border. And starter a greater campaign to educate the general public of this problem in detail. Many parents think "Kids will be kids. They are going to experiment, after all we did" Well folks times have changed in case you haven't' noticed. PLEASE PLEASE do your research and talk to your kids! Telling them not to do drugs isn't enough. be careful not to put them on the defense. Ask them if they know anyone who has been affected by this? Ask them to educate you and if they can't then tell them about what you have read and ask them not to experiment. Explain to them why it just to dangerous, not worth the risk And from the heart tell them how much you love them and don't want to find out how bone wrenching painful it is to have to bury a child and not see their smile or hear their voice ever again, on this earth anyway. Because what I'm feeling today, 12 years after my son's passing isn't a journey I'd wish on anyone. God Bless and if you are another parent who has lost a child, my love and prayers are with you..