Why do we have specialists? Why must we go to doctors for treatment if we know what the treatment will be? I have this belief, a belief not everyone agrees with, some even think it's just mean, unfair and horrible but I do not believe that everyone should go to college. Now before you get all upset about this hear me out. In dealing with businesses it has become obvious that WHAT your degree is in is insignificant so why would it be important? We have young men and women paying to attend college who are good with their hands, who are artists and musicians, authors etc Careers where a college class might be beneficial but a degree totally unecessary. Author's for instance, they attend college to learn proper grammer but when writing a book more often than not that proper grammer is going to make the book much less interesting. What makes the book interesting is when the author writes in the dialect or slang of the characters within the book. It's the same with musicians. When it comes to artistic value, the value is in the hands of the person who does or does not appreciate the work. Some love Picasso while other's don't get his work at all...other's love Thomas Kincaid...while still others will pay millions for the art of an elephant! Basically requiring a college degree just for the sake of the degree is causing true craftmanship to become nearly extinct while major factories who have found quick and cheap ways of constructing items in bulk put them out of business.
And the "buyer beware" attitude is enabling this even further. With the recent death of our son, one of the reasons some lawyers have given for not taking his case for wrongful death is that despite what his pain management specialist told us, and we trusted him, the correct information was in small print in the package insert. I ask you, if you have asked your doctor directly and think he has answered your questions why would you read the insert? How many of you read the package insert if your questions have already been answered?
I've learned that YOU must take pictures, keep all receipts, inventory, have detailed contracts etc for any business deal you enter into or you will likely get screwed. Do not trust professionals, friends, or even what seems to be the simplest of transactions....do not even trust police, doctors or hospitals etc.
I have a court order in my divorce decree from Andy's father stating that he is to carry health insurance on him whether I do or not and that he is responsible for all out of pocket medical expenses but have yet to find a lawyer who will fight to uphold that court order. (although up until now I admit I have not pursued it greatly) Our STATE law requires automatically that he pay for all out of pocket over 4% and still he has not only been allowed to fall more than $15000 behind but he has never been required to pay a dime on any medical bills, nor has he been required to pay for any part of our son's funeral while he did collect life insurance on him.
Meanwhile our life insurance that we have through my husband's work assured us the day we made the funeral arrangements in a recorded phone conversation that their computer showed that everything was "good to go" for such and such amount. We went through the funeral and weeks later they notified the funeral home (not us) that they were denying the claim due to failure on Andy's part to sign a statement of health. Now our policy is available to us on the computer and at no time UNTIL AFTER THIS POINT was there any mention of a statement of health being needed and now suddenly there was a note (not where it should have been..in my husbands profile message box) stating that He and I needed to sign this statement. It also stated that the policy would not be activated untill all necessary paperwork was recieved...and they had been collecting premiums on us from day one. When questioned on this they dropped it and said it was a mistake and we would get out check in a week or so. My husband called weekly and got the same response until at last they gave us a date. That date came and there was no check so my husband called once again to be told that they claim was denied due to that statement of health but that they would be willing to refund the premiums we had paid. We said no, that we would pursue this with a lawyer. (Next screw over) We made an appointment and spoke with a lawyer that came with high reccommendations from a friend. He seemed wonderful, caring, compassionatest his son 4 years prior and went on about how he could relate. We signed papers agreeing to hire him on to represent us, agreeing to his fees etc. Then he even hugged me and said, and I quote "Don't you worry little mamma, you have enough on your plate. We will get your son's name up there where it belongs (referring to on his tomb). You let me handle it from here." Which we did. We got him all the information he requested. He said he sent them a letter and they had 1 month to respond. If they settled great if not then we would go on to court. A month went by and we heard nothing. We tried calling him and left messages. He never returned our phone calls. Finally my husband went to his office and was handed our file with a business apology "I'm just too busy to take on your case at this time." Mind you our case is time sensitive. Now I have MORE to worry about!
I found out that a petition was being circulated to have Andy's football number retired and a large number of people had signed it. But due to rumors, the athletic's director at our small school...a school where Andy gave a great deal too, refused to retire it based on the "circumstances surrounding his death". WHAT CIRCUMSTANCES!? He had been in touch with us. We have been trying to raise money for a memorial scholarship for students from the school. Why? I ask myself that now since the schoo is turning their back on us like this. My son died from an accidental fentanyl overdose..a prescribed medication that has been recalled at least 3 times already and killed over 120 patients USING IT AS THEIR DOCTORS TOLD THEM. The patches are defective and the doctors are not disclosing all the proper information and using it improperly. I could go on and on but first and foremost Andy should have never even been put on that patch due to severe central sleep apnea...THAT IS IN LARGE PRINT IN THE INSERT...so shouldn't the doctor..a specialist know this?
WE are expected to read inserts while paying large amounts of money to specialists for what? Exactly what are the "professionals" responsible for? Are there no reprocussions for them and their mistakes? We have had to pay with our son's life and all of our funds available.....including to them! This is absurd!
When just anyone can go to college there is no way of knowing who is the expert at what...be it pain management or carpentry. There should be no shame in having a skill that does not require a college degree...a skill that others could not do degree or not. There should be no shame in working hard doing back breaking labor to earn a good paycheck to support your family without a college degree...someone has to do it and many of those who are cut out for college wouldn't last a day doing those jobs!
Further why does our govt offer a tax deduction for child care but nothing for families who have a parent who chooses to stay home and raise their children themselves? A sizeable tax deduction for married couples who have one stay at home parent would encourage neuclear families to try and make it work, would decrease the number of latch key kids, improve the quality of life for families and children and open up good paying jobs for the breadwinners of families. I know exactly why..he is helping perpetuate the nasty rumors spread by a handful of people, including a sherriff who has no business wearing the uniform, who have no idea what the truth is. He could have just asked. A BIG reason why we want to move from this area. That's realy bad when Sheriffs get by with discussing cases in public at all whether they have their facts straight of not and worse yet when a school enables them and turns their back on one of their top honor students and athletes...and athelete who would not have even been in the circumstances he was in were it not for giving the schools team his all.
I miss the days when honesty and integrity were expected and reveered. Looking back over my lifetime I can't pinpoint exactly when things flip flopped but they clearly did. I however can't fight dirty..and if we don't find a lawyer who can help us soon I see only one way I can help my family
